Below are some crucial lessons I’ve learnt in life. Call them cliche if you wish, but I speak from experience.
If I could go back in time, this is what I would tell the 20 year old me.
You have to be humble, not for others, but for you. Humility is important because it allows you to see and correct your mistakes. However, be careful not to be overly self-deprecating. Doing so will damage your self-esteem and you’ll resent others for not doing the same.
You will make mistakes in life, some more painful than others. But you’ll be surprised that many people (often older than you) make much more egotistical mistakes. If they can make them, so can you. We’re often harsh with ourselves, so that we instil discipline and achieve progress, but forgiving ourselves is actually what allows us to move forward and make the very progress we seek.
Learn to blame yourself first. That’s not to say everything is your ‘fault’ (it never is), but understanding what you could’ve done differently, takes you out of the victim mindset and empowers you. Doing so will make you think of things you could’ve done to avoid the problem because there will ALWAYS be something within your power that, had you done it, would’ve changed things. Not feeling like a victim is worth blaming yourself because you see the world with less cynicism and more confidence and positivity.
SPEAK TO PEOPLE’S EMOTIONS FIRST
Anything that people say can be translated into an emotional appeal. What people really seek, at least initially, is to be emotionally appeased. You will achieve much more if you first satisfy their emotions, then their logic.
Stay tuned for Part 2.