💑 Is it harder to get shredded when you are in a relationship? 💏

Posted by Eddie . on

There is no straight forward answer to this question. In some instances it is, in others, it’s not. Three factors to consider:

  • Environmental influence
  • Democratisation of your time; and
  • Ownership  

I’ll address each below.


Have you ever heard the quote you are a product of the 5 closest people around you? This is 100% true. Getting fit is 100 times easier if your partner is into fitness as well. Since you spend a lot of time with them, you’ll naturally adopt some (if not all) of their low calorie diets and training regimes.

This somewhat works on a subconscious level, especially if you really respect your partner. You’ll want what they have, and as a result, will adopt their habits. 

On the flip side, it’s more difficult if your partner has a bad diet and doesn’t exercise. This can actually be quite damaging to motivation. 


When you are single you only have yourself to consider and as such, it’s much easier to prioritise yourself. You have maximum control over your schedule, diet and training regime.

This level of control weakens when you have a partner, because you’ll have to factor in their wants and needs as well.


Regardless of what I’ve said above, ultimately what’s important is how much ownership you take over your fitness. If you’ve become unfit since you’ve been in a relationship, it’s irresponsible to yourself and your partner to blame it on them, regardless of their preference to fitness.

Like with most things in life, if you want something enough, you’ll be able to get it to some degree, so long as you put in the effort. If you’re not fit, you can only blame yourself.

If this is (or has) happened to you, assess yourself first and understand your relationship to fitness. Be honest and egoless.  


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