😭 Taking advantage of tragedy 😭

Posted by Eddie . on


One of the worst experiences of my life was when I had a break up. The girl I loved and with whom I saw my entire future with, suddenly left. I could see it coming and I will be the first one to tell you that I deserved it, but I had totally underestimated the impact it would have on me. I spent the first year recovering from depression and the second year getting over her. I’d say I only truly moved on 2 and a half years later.Β 

Whilst the experience was very traumatic (world shattering in fact) and one I would never want to go through again, there is ALWAYS a silver lining to EVERYTHING and this was no exception.

The experience humbled me so much, because it not only destroyed the certainty and confidence I had in myself, but it also made me question my values and the way I lived my life (including my habits). The effect of this weakened self-trust was that I was in the right state of mind to challenge my existing habits and create new ones, a mindset that does not come by often.Β 

I am grateful I took advantage of the situation to develop a series of new habits, ones that I have consistently performed for the last 3 and a half years and continue to this day. These are:

  • Reading a daily affirmation in the morning
  • 5 minutes of journaling each day
  • Writing 3 things I am grateful for each day
  • Exercising consistently, without fail, at least 5 times a week
  • Listening to 10 minutes of an audio book daily; and
  • Listening to 10 minutes of an inspirational/motivational speech

These may not seem like much, but knowing myself, I would never have had the raw intensity to consistently do these habits if I had not been so traumatised.Β Β 

Tragedy and failure should always be seen for what they are, an opportunity. They provide the perfect situation for you to really grow because they humble you to an extent that your mind is tender and soft so that it is receptive to new ways of doing things. Your mind will only truly be in such a state once in a while, so don’t waste these opportunities.


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