๐Ÿ™ˆ The Experience Of A Shy Gym Rat ๐Ÿ™ˆ

Posted by Eddie . on

You might be surprised but I am shy and nowhere is this more evident than at the gym. Through this post, I hope to shed some light on what shy guys think at the gym. As a disclaimer, these are my personal thoughts.ย 

We actually want to talk to you

I have a bad habit of not smiling. Itโ€™s a habit Iโ€™ve carried since my early years and by default, I tend to always have an RBF (google the acronym if you donโ€™t know what it is). A lot of people interpret this to mean I am angry or I have a personal hatred towards you, but the reality is I am simply shy and feel awkward.

The unfortunate thing is, many times Iโ€™d like to strike up a conversation with you, but I am simply too shy to do it. Of course there are occasions where I am short on time and want to get in and out of the gym as fast as possible, but these are the rarity.

At the gym, Iโ€™ve noticed often people will smile at me but stop short of coming to say hi. Perhaps they themselves are shy or my RBF turns them away, I am not sure, but whatever it is, we often donโ€™t end up verbally communicating.ย 

I no doubt agree that overcoming my shyness is an issue I bear onus to correct and is something I continue to keep in my mind today.

Suggestions if you want to talk to a shy guy

I want to leave you with a few suggestions on how you can approach a shy guy in the gym. These are things I would respond to positively and yes, I do realise they sound like dating advice:

  • Simply ignore the RBF and initiate conversation (I realise this isnโ€™t easy, but it works). Using the excuse of โ€œdo you have many more sets on this machine?โ€ or โ€œare you using this machine?โ€ always works
  • Watch for signs that we want to talk to you, such as repeated eye contact, and initiate conversation


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